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A Day In Your Life

Over the last two podcasts Ed and I have been looking at our own days, what we do, and how that works for us. So, mine was a day in the life of a psychotherapist and this week we did a day in the life of ED. It was, for me, quite strange doing it […]

What it takes to be a Psychotherapist

This week Ed and I had been talking about our working days and comparing the differences. This ended with him suggesting that we do this weeks podcast as a ‘day in the life’, so we have started with me as the Psychotherapist, next session we should do a day in the life of Ed. So, […]

The sweetness of doing nothing

There is something that is quite magic and something that we Brits hardly ever do, it is what the Italians call ‘The art of doing nothing’ or ‘La Dolce Far Niente’ literally translated as “the sweetness of doing nothing”.   “I learned about this concept while watching Elizabeth Gilbert’s masterpiece- Eat, Pray, Love, the other […]

Showing Emotion

By virtue of what I do I meet lots of people who are very emotional. This is both men and women, though in my experience women find it a lot easier than the men. In therapy men often found it easier to work with a female therapist so that they do not feel so bad […]

Status Anxiety

This week we looked at status and what it means. To have status implies that we are standing out from the rest, that we are seen as different or more than other people, we are special. I assume that the need to feel special would mean that we do not feel special in the first […]


Are you loyal? What do you mean when you use the word loyalty? Is loyalty the same as honesty and integrity? This week on the show we had Alison Blackler who is both a coach and a therapist and as today, May 1st, is National Loyalty Day in the USA we decided to dive in […]

Let’s All Stay The Same

Why do people change? Or, perhaps, more importantly, why don’t people change? When we look at some behaviours, when we look at the suffering that others go through we often wonder, ‘why do they put up with that?’ We could say that the only thing that we can be certain of in life is that […]

What to do when your house burns down

I watched in horror at the footage of Notre Dame in flames and the terrible scenes of hundreds of people turning out onto the streets to witness it. It made me consider the immense power that fire has to destroy and also to cleanse. I remember the news footage  of Windsor Castle with flames pouring […]

Impatience, the road to anxiety

Impatience is all about not being able to relax into the present moment, not being able to live in the now. Impatience is about wanting the future in the present. It could be that we are in a queue and feel ourself getting angry with those people that we see as holding the queue up. […]

Living in Fear

Doubt and fear are both forms of anxiety and worry. Worrying is a habit. Being happy is a habit. If you are a worrier, or if you are happy, where did you learn it? These like all habits are the results of consistent persistent practice over time. Most habits are learned at an early age […]