Hygge

Hygge is a Danish concept that is defined as a quality of cosiness and comfortable conviviality that engenders a feeling of contentment or well-being. This it would seem would be be the natural desire of all people. The perfect relationship between couple and in families embodies these very things. Yet, despite our best efforts, it is for many of us, so hard to attain. Divorce rates, of those that bother to marry, are high. You will have heard me going on about…

…If we all look after each other we will all be okay.

The would be no wars, conflicts would be easily resolved and happiness would the dominant emotion. Sadly as individuals we have become narcissistically obsessed with our own importance and expectation that others should do and be what we want and expect of them. Often we fear that they can be themselves and become offended that they might have opinions different to our own. Recently we visited Copenhagen and experienced Hygge first hand. People were friendly, happy and genuinely interested in people other than themself.

I have spent my life trying to support and help other people, often to my own detriment only to be belittled and diminished for not following the herd beliefs of the groups, workplace, institute, trust or even family.

What it comes down to is people’s levels of awareness and awake-ness from a consciousness point of view. The majority of human beings are in a deep asleep level of self awareness and have little or no understanding or empathy for other people even those that they are close to. There are some in a dream state of awareness living in their own dream about life and what it involves. Even less people are in the waking state and are beginning to become aware of the reality of the people around them. These are the seeds or empathy that is the precursor of Hygge. Then there are a very few who are actually awake. Many of the awakes people are the givers that seek to help others. Sadly those that are not yet awake are the takers and they take advantage of the givers. It is easy for the givers to feel used by the takers.

To be truly Hygge in our society and our relationships we need to learn to give expecting nothing in return. This is the true value of love. Often in awakeness we cannot explain things to asleep people because they just can’t see it. In the end it is easier too…

…allow the mad people to be mad but not join in.

Often awake people feel a deep sense of aloneness and with gather in communities of like minded people that live away from the asleep people.

However we can all develop Hygge and follow the Danish example and bring more hygge into our daily life by putting our own ego on one side and just being nice to and with other people rather than expecting that they do and act the way that we want them too. In the end love is all that there si the alternative is a fractured society and world built on self obsessed division and self interest.

So who can you be nice to and help today?

Take care and be happy,

Sean X