Money, money, money

Money is a powerful motivator.

Often when I say to people ‘what would make you happy?’ money comes into it somewhere. If you then say how much do you want, most people say ‘a million’. An odd number really. Most people do not need or want a million. What they want is ‘enough’, so how much is enough for you?

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When it isn’t working

When you talk to people who achieve what they want from life, very few will tell you that it is easy. There will always be issues that get in the way and will need to be worked with, overcome or avoided. I am using the word ‘issue’ deliberately, I could have used problem, crisis, disaster and so on.

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Let the mad people be mad

Here are two principles that stop us moving forward. The first is wanting or needing to change other people. The second is to be angry with, or about things that we cannot change. Both of these will create feelings of frustration and often resentment that will keep us locked into negative mind states forever. The Serenity Prayer explains this perfectly.

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The path of intention

When you say something do you mean it?

My teacher would tell me that the road to hell was paved with good intentions. In this sense the word intention assumes that we have Pan’s aims or ideas that we never complete or fulfil. If we take the opposite view and believe that we will compete what we set out to do than the word intention describes what will be, it implies determination.

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Be Mindful

Being Mindful is the reality of living in the present. To be mindful is to be totally aware of all that is happening, of all your actions and to be in control of all that you are thinking and feeling. Most importantly, to have an awareness of the effect that you have on the world and all those that you interact with.

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Attitudes and Gratitude

If you think about it being happy and being grateful go together. You cannot be happy if you are experiencing feelings of ingratitude. Equally if you are feeling happy then gratitude for what ever you are experiencing underpins feelings of happiness.

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Love yourself

Loving yourself is a good starting point. Go to the mirror look at yourself in the eyes and say ‘I love you’.

Most people can’t do it. Or if they do, it is with a laugh and a good dollop of disbelief. Self love is so important. Not in the arrogant self obsessed sense but in the honest self appreciation of who you are, the fact that you exist and, the confidence in who you are and, who you will become.

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The Anchor to the Past

The past holds us all back. Well, that is not strictly true. It is not what has happened to us that holds us back it is our attachment to past events that is the trouble. This attachment is just like the chain on an anchor that is wedged into where we have been and is impeding our ability to move forward.

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Why live in the present?

Well have you ever tried to change the past?

Wouldn’t it be nice if you could? Of course it is crazy to think like that. We can never change what has happened as much as we might like to. Yet many of us go over and over the past imagining how life would be if it had been different, if things had or hadn’t happened, as though changing the past would change who we are now.

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You Have Choice

You must have the strong belief to be self-motivated for belief is a great motivator. It is in fact the most powerful force in the world. If you resolutely believe that you are going to achieve great success in life, you are motivated to think and behave in ways consistent with your belief and you inevitably make it come true.