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Dealing With Trauma

What is a trauma? Trauma, is a Greek word meaning “wound”. A wound can be physical, mental, emotional, financial and so on. The concept of trauma comes from the idea that the wound, or event that is being experienced, is greater than our resources to deal with it. In that sense we have been overwhelmed. […]

Don’t Worry, Be Happy

Worrying is a habit, being happy is a habit. If you are a worrier, or if you are happy, where did you learn it? These, like all habits, are the results of consistent persistent practice over time. Most habits are learned at an early age through observation. We observe behaviours, usually from our parents or […]

Addiction and Happiness

Some addictions are unconscious habits while others are avoidance habits. It can be easy to slip into habits of behaviour through family and friends etc. You may even have a genetic propensity towards certain behaviours. However, some habits are the results of displacing your energy so that you avoid solving your problems in favour of […]

To see ourselves as others see us

Feedback is either a blessing or a curse depending on whether you want it or, the intention of the person giving it to you. Feedback can be positive or negative, useful or critical. However, even critical feedback is useful when it is well intended and given from the point of care or love. Since Ed […]

Why you should forget about retirement

Why Retirement? Forget it! When I was a child, we had fireworks every November 5th. On the box were written the instruction “light the blue touch paper and retire”. Later this was developed to “stand well back”. Now, I think that is what people do when they embrace the idea of retirement, they stand well […]

Forgive, let go and live

Forgiveness may be difficult but it’s not impossible. Again and again I work with people who are weighed down and disabled by their past experiences or from their negative attachment to what is happening to them right ‘now’. They can get angry with me when I talk about forgiving and letting go. They will often […]

The Joy of Growing Old

How Ageist are you? I think that there is a problem with the concept that we seem to have in relation to age and ageing. Age seems to have become the thing that people fear and wish to avoid which is strange because it is the one thing that will, to some extent or another […]

What is Kindness?

According to Wikipedia kindness is a behaviour marked by: ‘ethical characteristics, a pleasant disposition, and concern for others. It is known as a virtue, and recognised as a value.’ Google defines kindness as: ‘the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate’. How do you define it? When I was a child I read the book […]